When our kids were little, they would say ” I want to do so and so, or go so and so”. If I said no, they would say that, “Susie gets to do it”. My standard response was to ask what my child’s last name was. When they told me, I’d reply that Susie had to go by her family rules, and my children had to go by our family rules.
These days, my teens ask me if they can go or do so and so. Because “Everybody” is going etc. Now I ask what Everybody’s last name is , you see, I’m going to need to call Everybody’s momma to see if that is true…Nine times out of ten, Everybody is not going , is not allowed , etc anymore than my children are. They are hedging their bets that I am not going to check up on them. Wrong. My children are 14 and 16. I still call ahead to make sure that they are invited to come over. I still walk them to the door. I call to make sure that my teen driver has arrived at the house he is supposed to spend the night out.
You see, I want to see the parent that I am about to put responsibility for my child in their hands. I want them to know that I care enough to make that effort. My children are oh so happy that I do this,…. NOT! Teenagers just cannot be completely trusted. They want to sneak out, to stay out, to experiment, to push the limits. It is exhausting to stay on top of their shenanigans. Whatever your family rules are, stick to them. One day you may find that your children are parenting the same way you are. You’ll be glad they are keeping your grandchildren safe…all because they learned it from you!