Love Is Patient…

When I was a girl, I thought of LOVE as all warm and fuzzy. I wanted to “fall in love” to find my soul mate. As I’ve gotten older and had children, I realize that love is a verb, not a noun. Love is a decision, every day. The Bible has a lot of things to say about love. I especially like 1Cornintians 13. It steps on my toes, and I have not once felt that I accomplished each of these directives at once. I probably won’t in my lifetime. I still try. Here are some thoughts on this lovely verse. Valentines Day is for sissies. This scripture makes it all real.

Love is patient

  • Patience is so important in relationships. Endless patience. Even when dealing with my teenagers. Even when dealing with my husband of 20 years and who I work with. Every Day. Even dealing with people who I would not choose to have in my life.

Love is kind

  • Kindness is sometimes easier to give to people who do not live in my house. This hurts my heart to say.

It does not envy

  • I usually think that I do not envy others. I would be wrong. I am envious of people who are skinnier than me. I am envious of people who have traveled more than me. I am envious of people who have frequent flyer miles to help them travel less expensively.

It does not boast

  • I like to share my opinions. That could easily come across as boasting. I do like to brag about my kids.

It is not proud

  • This is big ouch for me. My pride gets in my way in too many ways to list.

It is not rude

  • I go to rude more quickly than I would like to admit. I tell myself it is in response to hateful behaviour or injustice. But I still go there. Sometimes, I shroud it in Southern sweetness. It’s still rude. I know it, even if nobody else does.

It is not self-seeking

  • have you ever done something just to see what kind of response you would get. I think that fits here and I’ve done it.

It is not easily angered

  • I could do an entire blog about my anger issues. It is high on my prayer list. I need to be much less reactive and slower to pull the trigger when dishing out a tongue lashing.

It keeps no record of wrongs

  • Who put this in there? I blame my genetics on my tendency to hold a grudge. I could win a Gold metal if there was an Olympic event for grudge holding.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

  • I don’t generally take pleasure in wrong doing. I have been known to have thoughts like” he/she got what was coming …”

It always protects

  • I have a WonderWoman cape in my closet. Like the main character in “The Blind Side”, I imagine that I score pretty high in protectiveness. My kids tell me all the time to let them handle their own stuff. I recently caught my 14-year-old daughter silently crying. She wouldn’t tell me why. I am always walking toward the closet where I keep my cape…I have moved it to my purse a few times..

Always trusts

  • I trust my spouse implicitly. Doubt creeps into my mind easily with the teens, though. I find it hard to trust my teens(with good reason).

Always hopes.

  • Most mothers hope for the best for their kids. I’m no exception. I guess this could be the mark that separates optimism vs pessimism.

Always perseveres

  • Keep on keeping on. Put your big girl panties one. put one foot in front of the other.

Love never fails

  • no matter what, I will be there for those that I love. Spouse, kids, family, friends. Ask, I’ll come running!

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

  • Like I said, I fail more than I succeed but I’m thrilled to have Holy Scripture to give me guidance.


About Debbie

I have been married for 20 years to a Yankee, have two great kids, a fun and funny Southern family, and a whole bunch of friends. I try to enjoy the journey!
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13 Responses to Love Is Patient…

  1. Denise says:

    This is great!

  2. Kim says:

    I will never forget the day you came running for me. Thanks for the “lovely” reminder.

  3. Heidi says:

    This is one of my favorite posts from you! Love is work, but the rewards are great <3

  4. Nancy says:

    Personally I think you are doing a pretty good job on all of these areas. I wouldn’t change you. ;)

    • Debbie says:

      Nancy, that is one of the sweetest things I’ve heard in a long time. Thank you. Having said that, I have PLENTY to work on!

  5. Diane says:

    Lovely. Thanks for sharing. Happy <3 Day!

  6. Kimbo says:

    “LOVE” this! :)

  7. Mary says:

    Very nicely done, Debbie. Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day. My guess is, with this perspective, you will.

  8. Katybeth says:

    What a “love”ly post. I married my soul mate and it was a whole lot of work. We were meant to be together there was no doubting it, and believe me we tried… It was seldom easy, but often very funny and we learned a whole lot from one another. Joe once told me he use to pray that he would NOT be “called” to become a priest, but after he met me he often wondered if he should have prayed less. . . .We could not have been more in love.
    Have a marvelous Monday!