When I was a girl, I thought of LOVE as all warm and fuzzy. I wanted to “fall in love” to find my soul mate. As I’ve gotten older and had children, I realize that love is a verb, not a noun. Love is a decision, every day. The Bible has a lot of things to say about love. I especially like 1Cornintians 13. It steps on my toes, and I have not once felt that I accomplished each of these directives at once. I probably won’t in my lifetime. I still try. Here are some thoughts on this lovely verse. Valentines Day is for sissies. This scripture makes it all real.
Love is patient
- Patience is so important in relationships. Endless patience. Even when dealing with my teenagers. Even when dealing with my husband of 20 years and who I work with. Every Day. Even dealing with people who I would not choose to have in my life.
Love is kind
- Kindness is sometimes easier to give to people who do not live in my house. This hurts my heart to say.
It does not envy
- I usually think that I do not envy others. I would be wrong. I am envious of people who are skinnier than me. I am envious of people who have traveled more than me. I am envious of people who have frequent flyer miles to help them travel less expensively.
It does not boast
- I like to share my opinions. That could easily come across as boasting. I do like to brag about my kids.
It is not proud
- This is big ouch for me. My pride gets in my way in too many ways to list.
It is not rude
- I go to rude more quickly than I would like to admit. I tell myself it is in response to hateful behaviour or injustice. But I still go there. Sometimes, I shroud it in Southern sweetness. It’s still rude. I know it, even if nobody else does.
It is not self-seeking
- have you ever done something just to see what kind of response you would get. I think that fits here and I’ve done it.
It is not easily angered
- I could do an entire blog about my anger issues. It is high on my prayer list. I need to be much less reactive and slower to pull the trigger when dishing out a tongue lashing.
It keeps no record of wrongs
- Who put this in there? I blame my genetics on my tendency to hold a grudge. I could win a Gold metal if there was an Olympic event for grudge holding.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
- I don’t generally take pleasure in wrong doing. I have been known to have thoughts like” he/she got what was coming …”
It always protects
- I have a WonderWoman cape in my closet. Like the main character in “The Blind Side”, I imagine that I score pretty high in protectiveness. My kids tell me all the time to let them handle their own stuff. I recently caught my 14-year-old daughter silently crying. She wouldn’t tell me why. I am always walking toward the closet where I keep my cape…I have moved it to my purse a few times..
- I trust my spouse implicitly. Doubt creeps into my mind easily with the teens, though. I find it hard to trust my teens(with good reason).
- Most mothers hope for the best for their kids. I’m no exception. I guess this could be the mark that separates optimism vs pessimism.
- Keep on keeping on. Put your big girl panties one. put one foot in front of the other.
Love never fails
- no matter what, I will be there for those that I love. Spouse, kids, family, friends. Ask, I’ll come running!
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
- Like I said, I fail more than I succeed but I’m thrilled to have Holy Scripture to give me guidance.